Science Says There Are Two Kinds Of Love Addiction And You’ve Likely Experienced One
Youre pretty sure youre in love, but how do you know?
Well, when youre with him, you cant stop smiling like a lunatic, and when youre not with him, youre obsessively checking your phone for a text or call from him.
And dont even get me STARTED on the increasingly large empty feeling in the pit of your stomach when there is no text or call. Then, of course, the text or call finally comes, and youre back to smiling like a buffoon.
You know this is what being in love feels like. But doesnt itfeel a lot like youre addicted to a drug, that drug being the person youre in love with? When you have his attention youre feeling high, and when you dont youre feeling low.
Studies in the past have already found the neurological similarities betweenbeing in love and being addicted to drugs, but a new study conducted by researchers at Oxford University Center for Neuroethics decided to dive a little deeper into what exactly being addicted to love does to our brains.
One of the studys authors, Anders Sandberg, explained in theNew Scientistthat theres a certain line thats crossed when regular love turns into something more related to addiction:
I think it is when you realize you do not want to be in love yet cannot avoid it, and it causes bad things, like abuse, that we cross the line into something addiction-like.
To conduct their study, researchers analyzed 64 studies on love and addiction that had been published anywhere between 1956 and 2016. In their research, they found that there are two types of addiction-like feelings when it comes to love: narrow and broad.
The narrow view is the one we typically associate with negative addictive behavior. According to the researchers,the narrow view counts only the most extreme, harmful forms of love or love-related behaviors as being potentially addictive in nature.
Simply put, this kind of love is extreme. The highs are incredibly high and the lows are really low.
On the other hand, the broad view is more commonly associated with normal love. When you have a broad view, your addictions are more like manageable .
This means you can usually control your gut-wrenchingfor your partner, but if it goes on for too long, it becomes increasingly difficult to ignore.
While some other scientists dont consider the broad type of falling in love to actually be addictive behavior, the studys lead author, Brian Earp, argues that it cana form of addiction when our cravings start to take over our other interests.
In other words, whennothing brings you as much joy as hanging with your BAE, its time to consider the possibility that you might be addicted.
If youve ever been in any sort of love, Im willing to bet youve experienced one of these two types of love addiction. The question is, which is it? Comment below!